The psychological, social, and economic aspects of multiple pregnancies have not received the same amount of attention as the medical risks, but they are just as important to consider. If you are contemplating fertility treatment that puts you at risk for multiple pregnancy, or if you are currently pregnant with multiples, familiarizing yourself with these issues will help you make informed decisions regarding treatment, and, if necessary, prepare you for the unique challenges of multiple birth and parenting. For more information on the medical aspects, please contact us for a copy of the ASRM Fact Sheet titled Complications of Multiple Gestation.
PSYCHOLOGICAL AND SOCIAL ISSUES
●Multiples may be hard to tell apart even if they are not identical. Help differentiate multiples by color coding their clothing or using bracelets that spell out their names. Soon you will be able to tell them apart by their individual characteristics and personalities.
●Parents may bond to multiples differently than to single-born children (singletons). You may find yourself preferring one infant more than the others, and your “favorite” may vary from week to week. Each infant will have different needs at different times, requiring different amounts of attention.
●Managing the physical care of multiples is more difficult than managing singletons, especially in early infancy and childhood, and may lead to chronic stress and fatigue in the parents. Make sure that you reserve some time for you and your spouse as a couple, even if only for a few minutes a day. Remember to take care of yourself as well as your children.
●Older siblings may have difficulty adjusting to multiples, especially in competing for your attention. Try to be sensitive to the needs of your older children. Involve them in the pregnancy by taking them with you to doctor visits. Ask them to help choose items for the nursery. Asking them to be your “helper” and soliciting their opinions on the care and raising of the multiples will help them feel needed and loved.
●Some parents and schools prefer that multiples be in separate classes to promote individually, particularly if the children have different abilities. However, some schools may not have enough classes to separate multiples, and logistical difficulties magnified if the children need to be placed in different schools.
Contact your local school system to ask about your children’s teachers to provide the best environment for your children.
●Parents of multiples may feel socially isolated. Fatigue, lack of personal time, immersion in the care of the children, and financial difficulty are common reasons. It is easy to become engrossed in caring for multiples, but don’t abandon all of your hobbies and interests. Instead look for ways to be creative in balancing your needs with those of your children.
●Multiples often attract attention. This may have positive or negative consequences depending on the personalities of the parents and children and the nature of the attention. Plan ahead how you will respond to such attention. Role play, try different scenarios, and you will less likely be caught off guard. Keeping a sense of humor is important.
●Help from family and friends is often short-term. Parents of multiples usually need additional help, even if one parent stays at home. Premature infants require smaller, more frequent feedings than full-term infants and significant time for night feedings and diaper changes. Nighttime help may be necessary until the babies acquire reasonable sleeping habits. If you are unable to have someone in your home to help, work out a schedule so that neither parent does the bulk of the work. Sleep deprivation may cause fatigue and depression. Be aware of these signs in yourself or your spouse and work as a team to overcome these difficulties.
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